Even the smallest loss can lead to a big reaction. Losing something or someone is emotionally challenging for everyone and we are often unprepared for such a loss. Love and grief go hand in hand and choosing to travel, live, or study abroad inevitably carries a risk of grief for home.
Home is an important place where we feel protected from the outside world; it is our main source of security. Leaving it can be a traumatic experience and underestimating our feelings, for instance a reaction to moving or living abroad, can cause us to supress negative emotions. Feeling like it is silly to feel depressed about something we ourselves have decided to do, such as to move abroad, is a very common mistake.
Threats to our security and changes in our lives and the lives of our family give space to reactions associated with loss and grief. And since loss and grief are complex sets of emotions which are linked to our childhood experiences and attachments, and are therefore very personal, I would recommend that those struggling to adjust to their lives abroad seek out a therapist to help them to manage their emotions while they move on toward accepting the changes in their lives.
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