Search for home
At some point, we no longer know where we belong. Eventually, we learn how to love our new home and how to adjust to our new daily life. The moment we fall in love or form a meaningful relationship, we find ourselves wondering what to do next. And at that point, it is difficult to decide where our home actually is.
As we don’t spend every day or even a day a week with them, our old friends and family members do not know us as well as they used to. Our heart seems to be both here and there.
Listening to my clients, talking to other expats and drawing on my own experience, I noticed that after 10 years or so of living abroad, most of us have a tendency to begin thinking about what to do next. Where is my home? Where do I belong? We start feeling homesick for the country we grew up in and at the same time we cannot imagine coming back.
Prejudice of others and constant reminders and remarks about our accents (if we even learn the language) make us wonder if it can ever be the ideal home we were looking for. Even if we did our best to adjust to a different culture, we learnt how to cope with different rules and needs, and we adapted to a different mentality, it might seem like life will never be as easy as it was in our home country. At that point, we are in a “one foot in and one foot out” kind of situation.
If we find ourselves wondering about our existence, it is time to search for a professional who helps us to see more clearly which path in life to take from now on.
22. 9. 2016
Lenka Collins
Counsellor, Therapist, Life Coach
working with adults in Prague
Mobile Phone: +420 774 223 515
Email: info@lenkacollins.cz
Web: http://www.lenkacollins.cz
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